15 December 2008
that's right, i said it. she couldn't possibly have a daddy because if she did things in her life would be different. this is normally my explanation for the disparaging behaviors of some young women, but sometimes its just the plain ole truth.
i hate to be cliche', but there are certain situations when a father is needed. now not all fathers are Ward Cleaver or Cliff Huxtable, but fatherly input goes a long way in a young girl's life. the tales that i have heard recently have forced me to make "she ain't got no daddy" a regular phrase in my conversation. if you are unsure of scenarios that are worthy of the phrase, i have plenty of examples.
1. i previously wrote a blog about thug love. the young lady i used as an example ain't got no daddy. anytime the idea of someone mistreating you is what you look for in a spouse, your daddy was MIA. if he was there he would have let you know that a man would cherish his woman and treat her nice. her husband was trying to be that man. but because she had never dealt with a real man, she was looking for that romantical thug. *sigh*
2. the young girl at that bus stop that said: "my p***y so good Arruh Kelly wanna get at me." excuse me for just a second....BITCH HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND!!!!! i am sorry, you ain't got no daddy; thus you didn't think that notion was incorrect in any way. dear young girls (12-18) it is never cute when a man 8+ years older than you wants to be your boyfriend, including Arruh Kelly. did you ever ask why he is not dating someone his age? you are cute, but you are not that cute little girl.
3. a conversation between young girl and grown man: she is 161/2 yrs old, he is 45 yrs old
"girl you know in a year and half umma be up in that "
i know she ain't got no daddy, because my daddy would have whipped his ass for even insinuating that he was interested in sex. now maybe her giggle was one of nervousness, but the proper response would have involved several curse words. the insult to injury is that this man is someone who volunteers to monitor the behavior of neighborhood children. he is concerned about them getting out of hand. *blinks* i wish you could see my face.
4. i could go on for days but my final example can be summed up in one word: MAURY. are you really coming on the show for the 5th time to test the 9th man to determine the identity of your child's father. i need you to stop playing. you ain't got no daddy because he would told you what men really think about girls that sleep around. you would have thought about your actions and attempted to correct the situation. but there couldn't have been a daddy because you came on TV and told people what and who you had been doing. *SMH*
side note: if people had sex education they would understand the very small window that a woman has to get pregnant. to have that many candidates in that small window, again excuse me....YOU'S A HOE!!!!
please feel free to use my new phrase when you feel it necessary! (don't forget to give me credit)
while scanning the guide on my digital cable, only one title stood out; Very Young Girls. i was immediately intrigued and i suppose that is why they gave it that title. i changed the channel and saw these teenage girls appear on the screen talking about "the life". now "the life" is one of two things i thought, gang banging or prostitution. i was sad to learn that it was the latter.
i watched this 90 minute documentary about young girls entering the world of prostitution as early as age 12 and how difficult it was for them to get out. logically it seems like an easy task; go home or just walk away. but what if there is no home to go to or if home is just as bad as "the life"? it is evident in the documentary that these young girls are psychologically scarred by their experiences but that they have been brainwashed by the pimps.
my disdain for older men that prey on young girls grew even stronger after listening to these stories. one young lady entered "the life" at 16, her pimp at the time was a 47yr old man who picked her up at the bus station. she went on to say he was like her boyfriend. REALLY?? what bothered me was that she found nothing wrong with 47 yr old man behaving as her boyfriend. it made me understand the state her mind was in when she entered "the life".
overall, this was an excellent documentary. it gave me info and insight into things that I would otherwise not know or understand. it has also inspired me to get involved in an organization in Georgia that helps young girls that are sexually exploited. for more information on similar groups in your state, the film and the organization called GEMS, go here: www.gems-girls.org/
06 December 2008
Orgazmo is the story of a young Mormon man who raises money for his wedding by playing a pornographic superhero on film. but that story has nothing to do with this blog. i needed a visual for the topic at hand, the all powerful orgasm.
i was listening to my favorite morning radio show (The Bert Show Q100) and a young lady contacted the show to say she had dated a dude for 5 years and never had an orgasm. WHAT THE FEEZY? i am not sure why she stayed in the relationship because i stopped hearing after she said it had been 5 yrs.
i know that men can be selfish in that arena, but when do you stop protecting his feelings and tell that man what your needs are? i believe that is indicative of how most women handle their sexual situations. it is such a sensitive topic and you never want to hurt his fragile ego. but sometimes you have to say it. i remember the time that i had to let a dude know.
him: well did you.....
me: no i did not
it made him try harder and i appreciated that. it is time that we let men know that "beating it up" (literally) does nothing for us. some men need to learn the anatomy of a woman, where nerve endings are and all that good stuff. this is my attempt at a PSA for dudes. i am not sure how its coming off, but hell its my blog, so there.